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Three Keys to Strengthen Relationships ~ Part 1

03/10/2019

How could I have gotten it wrong all these years? I shake my head and chastise myself every time I play solitaire on my tablet now. For ten years, I had an incomplete understanding of the game, at least the version of solitaire that I play on my tablet. I had assumed that every empty space must always be filled before you can deal another set of cards. So, if I got close to the end of the game with cards left to deal and empty spaces, I would fill those spaces with face-up cards that were

On Becoming Love, Part 3 ~ Solving Your Solvable Problems

08/08/2018

We’ve all been there, right? Stress builds up, something triggers a reaction and it all comes out. Such was the case one dark and rainy night in Washington years ago. We’d moved there for a job change that wasn’t working out very well. Consequently, it was a stressful time in our lives. But, since we were still in the conflict avoider’s camp (see my last blog post here), we weren’t talking about the issues that were cropping up. I don’t remember what the last straw was for me before the

On Becoming Love, Part 2 ~ Solving Your Solvable Problems

07/24/2018

Our walk was quiet on that night long ago. He answered my questions with a terseness with which I was well familiar. I stopped trying to make conversation and the stony silence descended. I had hurt his feelings or made him angry somehow. There was no point in trying to talk about it. I knew I would get no response if I did. When we got home, I settled into my comfortable chair to read a bit. My heart ached as he walked by without a word and went to bed. One of the four horsemen of the